Guide

Talking to Parents

Stoughton Counseling

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Preparation

Gather Data: Have specific, objective examples of the student's behavior (e.g., "I noticed John has put his head down during math 4 times this week").
Consult: Speak with the school counselor or other teachers to see if they are observing similar patterns.
Set the Tone: Plan to approach the conversation as working together, not an accusation.

Start Positive: Begin by sharing something you appreciate about the student.
Use "I" Statements: Say "I have been concerned about..." rather than "Your child is doing..."
Be Direct but Gentle: Clearly state what you are observing without making clinical diagnoses. (e.g., say "She seems very overwhelmed and tearful," not "She has anxiety.")
Listen: Ask open-ended questions like, "Have you noticed any changes at home?" or "How is he seeming to you lately?"

Collaborate: Ask the parent what strategies work well at home.
Provide Resources: Offer contact information for the school counselor.
Referral: If appropriate, provide information for outside support, such as Stoughton Counseling, and explain how the school can work with them.
Follow Up: Schedule a specific time to check back in (e.g., "Let's touch base next Friday to see how things are going").